H ave you ever felt like you’re being pulled in a hundred different directions all at once? You women out there may be asking, isn’t that just the way life is? Do you like to call this dispersion of energy “multi-tasking?” Well, I’m going to pop some of your bubbles (especially the ladies out there)! Multi-tasking is great for doing a lot of things without a lot of consciousness. And recent studies of “multi-tasking” have shown it to be much less effective than focusing on one thing at a time. Okay, I may have lost some of you now because you’re saying, well that’s how I am or that’s how I function…but hear me out (sistas especially…the gentlemen have got this one pretty much down)! What I’m about to say will make you feel less stressed thus decrease illness and boost your immune system and maybe even increase your overall quality of life, especially during this busy time of year!
H ere it is…BLOCK YOUR TIME! Before you begin your week go through each day and decide what you will choose to be present to and BLOCK IT! The secret then is to HONOR YOUR OWN CHOICES! If you block 4pm-6pm for dinner/family time then don’t check your email while the pasta is boiling! I know we all CAN do this, but it doesn’t mean it is to our highest benefit. If you’ve set this time aside for family and dinner…BE PRESENT to your choice! Listen to your kids chatter in the back seat on the way home from practice instead of finishing up that last business call. Make dinner a time to reinvigorate the senses (which will serve in other areas of your life as well J). Listen to the water boil, enjoy the aroma of the sauce (even if it’s straight from the jar)…can you pick out the scent of onion and garlic. Sit down and, now I know this might sound crazy, TASTE and CHEW your food! Enjoy the face time with your roommate, spouse, friends , kids or yourself! J BE PRESENT to what is in front of you…after all YOU chose it!
Block the your time the way you would like to spend it! Go for the ideal! Yes, life will happen sometimes? Of course! But try to honor how and with what or whom you’d like to spend you’re time with. Be completely present with your choice, mind, body and spirit! See how you FEEL? You may actually get more done and be happier and healthier doing it! J
So about three months ago, after taking a couple years to work part time gigs to help pay the bills (oh and have babies!)…I got a REAL job! It was a job I went to school for…practical, financially stable, it would allow me to “work from home” although I would not be able to BE PRESENT with my children, but really from the outside it looked like the perfect opportunity for a “single mom” looking to support herself and two kids! My parents were happy, my baby daddy was happy, my friends were happy for me, and I was…well…relieved to have the pressure off!
So I went to the orientation. I walked into the building ready to take on this new challenge that seemed, by all external measures to be an answer to prayers…but as soon as I entered the room with all the other employees I got nauseas…anxious…shaky… so much so that I had to walk outside. I chalked it up to having been a stay-at-home mom for the last two years and nerves about starting a new job. I tried to “suck it up” and the next 3 days of orientation were like torture internally for me but I continued work another month disregarding every fiber of my being screaming that I made a wrong turn.
I eventually figured out this was a life changing turning point for me. I was in the midst of discerning whether or not to begin doing the healing work I KNEW I was meant to do, but which meant starting my own business (something I knew little to nothing about). But in that moment (and following month of torture J) I realized that I wanted so much more for my life and my girls! I didn’t want them to grow up watching their mother settle for less happiness than we all deserve and so I left. I left and I turned back towards the path I knew was for me…and it worked!!! The Universe supports us! God knows our hearts and guess what…if you listen (especially to your body…a direct conduit of Light) you will begin to know your own heart too and together, with that Source Energy that gives life to EVERYTHING, will create the most beautiful life you can imagine! So cheers to letting go of fear and to the external and honoring the innate wisdom that lies at the center of each of us!
I found this little excerpt in a notebook I keep in my purse for "homemaking" things like grocery lists. I have no recollection of writing it. It spoke to me this morning...I hope someone else may find solace in it as well. Have a beautiful Sunday!
"When you receive sparks of truth or enlightenment on this journey, do not think of them as absolutes or finalities; stop...breathe...fill your heart with love and gratitude...for you are evolving and we are fortunate to be in a time where we are able to witness many stages of our own evolution AS it is happening! So say thank you to the spark and be ever patient and vigilant waiting for the next."
Cheers to our evolution!