To Bitch or Not to Bitch...THAT is the Question!

I get so frustrated when things don’t go MY way!  There, I said it!  I’m not a natural planner or a very structured person by nature, but when I DO take the time to plan or structure something you better BELIEVE I will have it go my way, or else…unless of course it doesn’t. :)




Have any of you ever had these thoughts?  It happened to me twice today…where I planned things in detail and life just kind of laughed at me. I’ll tell you about the first! I hope this story helps you find a little more magic on your own journey.




I planned on my partner getting home at a 10 am this morning.  I texted at 9:10 am to make sure he’s on his way (it’s an hour bike ride from where he is). He calls and says it’s going to be another hour and then he’ll ride home!  This news obviously puts my carefully planned morning off by at least another hour! Frustrated…I fume…thinking thoughts of blame and judgment…all very productive things to be doing with my time, I know! :)  My very efficient, effective and detailed plan of action for the day, ruined!  Or was it?


I proceeded to take a breath, calm myself down and focus on what was in front of me…the children, the dishes that need to get done, the grocery list that needs to be made, the never ending piles of laundry that need to be folded and I realized this morning was MEANT to go this way. 


How did I know this?


I know my morning was supposed to unfold like it did because…well…it did.  To me, this is a comforting thought and you can use it in almost any situation!  Now this is not to say that my partner and I can’t discuss and agree on better ways to communicate, but in that moment, I could either keeping fuming about my plans being ruined and my perception of his lack of consideration, OR I could go with it!  So I went with it…and you know what?  My day only got better and I was even able to see how being put off that hour ended up creating more space and opportunity later in my day…almost as if by magic! It amazing what happens when we learn to get present in our lives!


We are always working with something...a picture...a story greater than our own.  When we take the lead and what we plan is right on, it feels amazing!  But when it’s not, and the Universe gives you an opportunity to embrace the present moment…take it…you never know where the it will lead you!